Humans Are PCs

Both a PC and a human being are comprised of numerous parts that work in sync with the intention of ensuring either can power up and get things done. Each runs on electricity and actively seeks to connect with a higher force that is all-knowing and invisible to the naked eye, and no two computers (humans) are the same (performance/appearance).

Now granted there are obvious distinctions between fleshy sacks of connective tissues and hardened electronic parts that most people wouldn’t be able to identify if they happened to accidentally open their tower’s side panel, although one must always look beyond surface details in order to fully comprehend and appreciate the capacity for parts to function so the whole can operate proficiently.

However, there are times in which the forces of entropy constrict an individual’s ability to thrive in the world at large. PCs can catch viruses, break down from general wear and tear, or even fall short miserably of achieving anything worthwhile because the foundational programming that resides within the operating system (subconscious) is corrupted. Now how does this occur? It happens whenever an individual exposes their mind, body, or spirit to any sort of dysfunction because it is safe to say that anything dysfunctional will rarely if ever produce stability and order.

Take for instance the example of being raised by a narcissistic parent who actively works to subjugate the identities of their children instead of allowing them to naturally grow and develop. I.e. violating the boundaries of individuals who form entirely separate experiences from the parent. So what will this lead to? Well that all depends on what the message is conveying, as well as how the information is integrated. My own narcissistic mother once told me that life would have been easier for her if she never met my father.

Ouch. Well how did my mind noodle interpret that message? “Life would be so much better for mommy if I wasn’t around because I never would have been birthed if she never met my father.” Uggh – she always knew how to make her kids feel welcomed and accepted. Just kidding, but in any case this is the type of garbage I put up with for years because I didn’t know that it’s wrong for a parent to treat their offspring like trash.

In fact, her maltreatment towards me led to the manifestation of my inability (struggle) to easily connect with my community. I.e. my PC wasn’t able to perform adequately since my programming was all botched. This in turn supported my tendency to detach, dissociate, and ultimately isolate myself because the world appeared too cold.

But this is no longer the case because I’ve taken steps to wipe my hard drive (subconscious) of faulty programming. Couple this with the fact that I’ve also completely severed ties with the abuse I was subjected to (i.e. going no contact), and it’s reasonable to say that these actions have allowed me to transform my experience in life. In other words, the world appears much brighter than it had.

Knowledge Is Valuable

“Never stop learning. In the endeavor you’re involved in, always open your mind to grow and increase in knowledge. If what you love to do is available through books, CDs, home study courses, or other methods of schooling, take the time to educate yourself. Always be a person who is evolving and growing.” – Sheldon

Many times people in society can let knowledge stop after the school years have passed. Whether it is grade school or college some feel like that’s the end of learning as they know it. “I’ve been to school and have gotten the grade,” they’ll say. They’ll get complacent in stopping just at the school years.

As a person you are ever-growing. You were built to learn and to go on from level to level. Think about what it is that you are involved in. If you are involved in a career or in the marketplace there is always room to grow. The reason that there is room to grow is because the times are constantly changing.

This year makes my tenth year in the writing and publishing industry. But, as the years pass there is always new information and new ways of doing things that are created and brought to light. So, it doesn’t matter if I’ve been involved in writing for ten years or a hundred years, there will always be new ways of doing writing and publishing. The foundational work might be the same, but someone will come up with a new and better way to do it.

Think about yourself and what you are involved in. Ask yourself if and will there be a new way created to do what it is that you do. If you were to say there is a pretty good chance that there may be a new way created I would almost be inclined to say yes there will. If you were to study the industry or endeavor out you would probably find that someone created an easy, more effective, or more productive way of doing what you do.

Knowledge is valuable for you to obtain. As I stated earlier, we are ever-growing. We should try to get all the knowledge that we can, but it’s sad to say that some don’t. Just think about what you do and see if there is a more effective way of doing it. If you are a manager is there a more efficient way to manage? If you are an entrepreneur is there a more productive way to run your business. If I’m doing what I love can I do it better?

Being better extends further than just inspirational talk. When you get the knowledge beyond what you already know and put it into action that’s when you see that knowledge’s value and when you grow beyond your current state.

The Paralysis of Choice

Did you ever notice that usually our wants don’t satisfy us once we are in the midst of receiving them? This is usually because we are insatiable on the one hand and unsatisfied on the other. But what is more, the more choices we have, the worse we feel, and the more anxious we feel.

Once upon a time, when we went out to buy a box of cereal, we only had a few choices. Now it seems that there are thirty different varieties of cereal, and it seems that they are coming up with more flavours on a weekly basis. Wasn’t it easier when we could go to the store and just have one or two types of cereal?

The success of modernity is bittersweet because of the overabundance of choice. Having too many choices causes psychological distress, especially when it is combined with regret, comparison and the desire to have the best of everything.

There are steps we can take to mitigate many sources of distress. But they are not easy to follow. They require discipline, practise, and a new way of thinking.

Here are a few things you could try to avoid the stress of choice as much as possible:

1. Choose when to choose and when not to choose

Choice is essential to our overall well-being. However, too much choice has negative results for us. To manage excessive choice, we must decide which choices in our lives really matter and focus our time and energy there, letting other opportunities pass by.

2. Be a chooser not a picker

Choosers are people who are able to reflect on what makes a decision important. Perhaps none of the options should be chosen or a new option should be created. Pickers simply are passive selectors from whatever is available. Choosers take time to modify their goals, while pickers do not modify them. Choosers don’t follow the herd while pickers do. Good decisions take time and attention. So, be a chooser, and you will feel less stress.

3. Satisfice more and maximize less

Maximizers suffer the most in a culture where we have too many choices. Maximizers worry most about regret, missed opportunities, and social comparisons. We have to learn to accept good enough. This will amplify our satisfaction. It is often hard to embrace good enough especially since we live in a culture of more. The trick is to embrace and appreciate satisficing.

4. Practise an attitude of gratitude

Our evaluation of our choices is profoundly affected by what we compare them with, including comparisons that exist only in our imaginations. Focus on the good aspects of an experience instead of the negative ones. By doing this, you can improve your subjective experience by consciously striving to be grateful about your choices.

By taking these steps, you will be destressing about choice and you will be able to enjoy the culture of plenty we live in as well as be able to step back and not be paralyzed by the ubiquity of choice.